Busy life of a dad

Man has my life been busy: I started collaborating on a book (which is almost done and ready to be published), started a new job, continued being a den leader, ran day camps, got my kid into an archery club and even had my other son start preschool.

Since I started my job as a Youth Coordinator my life has been a lot of fun mixed with work. But I am spending a lot of time outside of the house without the boys, which is a big change for me. I am still a strong supporter on other parts of their lives, including sports and school that they are in. In fact next week is daddy and donuts day at the preschool and I will be happily eating donuts instead of working that morning.

I would like you to thank all the dads out there who have a busy schedule and still make time to be with their kids. I wish I could blog more but I am going to try to start a new blog and get a new site up for our dad book. But I do promise to publish more on here as well.

Thanks for being here.

Stop my Whiny son.

My son just had 2 of his cub scout friends come over for the day and one of them was here for the last 2 days. And both days started the same, 45 minutes of fart/burp jokes then more weird behavior about boobs. They would hold up balls or anything circular and would say hey look “boobs”. This was really funny since I have never seen him act this way with other people. It was funny though to see what kids his age are thinking about. Not everything I found out was funny about his behavior. Continue reading

No Job Equals Less of a Man

I wonder if it’s just me who feels like half a man? I have a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration but no job. It isn’t like I’m not getting interviews either. I’ve probably been on 10 in the last 2 months. Suited up, practiced and even studied some of the openings so I could have a leg up during the interviews. And I’m pretty sure I’m not bombing it on the interviews either.

You might even say it’s because of place but I’m not living in a big city but thirty thousand isn’t just a small town either. It’s rated one of the best small towns to live in the USA, ranked #5. Maybe its a numbers game? 100 jobs in a city of 30,000 looks good but 100 jobs in 3,000,000 looks like a crap shot. Am I wrong though, should I be having better luck finding a job?Charlie Jobs

This non stop going and interviewing and still not coming up with a job is putting some weight on my shoulders that I try not to show my family. But at times it feels like I can’t support my family and it cuts to the bone. I feel as though I can’t ask for any time off, or time to hang out with an acquaintance.

I want to leave my kids a great example to follow as a man but not being able to find a job is a huge disappointing example. The father/man I had raise me always had a job. Whether it be warehouse work or construction work. He even had a job as a drug dealer until he was no longer around. This is who I based my understandings of being a father on.  Continue reading

Fatherhood book project


I am glad to announce that I have signed on with 59 other fathers to write and publish a book about fatherhood.

Since that is a huge project I am a little scared to tell my girlfriend. I don’t think she is the kind of person to say that I a
m wasting my time but it also doesn’t look good that I don’t have a job. This is also on top of volunteering as a District Committee Chairman, South Dakota Recruitment Chair, and as a Wolf Cub Scout Den Leader. So even though I’m not getting paid I am busy. Continue reading

Building rounder kids

For the last year I have volunteered as a Den Leader for the Cub Scouts. It’s also a good spot to mention that I have never been in Scouts or to a meeting before, so it’s all new to me. I made a great plan for the kids and even kept it exciting. I am looking for a full-time job and I would really enjoy volunteering again as a den leader. I plan on getting the scouts to be more community helpful with community service projects and doing some fundraising. Even though some of the kids are moody little drama queens.  I plan is that it will show the scouts that each of us can help change someone else life.Kayaking

I have noticed from my time working as an assistant tee-ball coach that every kid wants to play and hit but no one wants to pass the ball. They all want to make the play. I’ve had our center outfielder run in a ball to try to tag the guy out at home. They love being part of a team but don’t understand the aspects of teamwork. Continue reading

First time cooking out

So for the first time I was given the task to start a fire with whatever I could find in the car and some firewood. So mentally I was already thinking what I could be doing, while also trying to figure out if stating a fire in Custer State Park was legal without a permit?

Which was on my mind since I have never started a fire by myself with no tools and definitely not in a state park. I really didn’t want a park ranger getting mad at me for starting a fire when it is a little windy.  Or be responsible for a forest fire just because my girlfriend wanted me to make some smores and hotdogs. Since this was her first time hiking, I decided it could be a celebration for her and Ayden.  So the hell with the park rangers.

Now came the challenge of what to use to get the fire going and how to get the huge logs cut into something that wasn’t a short fat log. So I used a knife I bought at a Marilyn Manson concert back when I was around 14. At the time it was the coolest thing I have ever bought. After Rambo-ing the logs it clicked in my head that I should be chopping the logs down to a more workable size. The tip broke off of my knife, you can see it in the picture,  so I started the knife in the log and started hammering them down on a man-sized boulder. Great thinking on my part.

I also had some pre-made Petballs, Petroleum rolled with some dryer lint, since I have started becoming a prepper for survival. This really made the fire start slow with some dry twigs I found. Then quickly moved up to bigger sticks which made the fire just keep getting bigger.

This whole fire challenge was fun for me since It was a Man Trial I have never had. So you can mark that on my man card. What kept me going on that fearful day was remembering her words, which were more smug than helpful, she said “you like survival stuff now prove it.”

First Cookout My First Fire

Thanks all survival blogs I follow.

Our First Adventure

My son wanted to do something fun and weird so we decided to go hiking. It was fun because we both have never gone just exploring without a map or destination.

So we packed a few bottles of water, some apples, and a few pears and left for Custer State Park. Yeah I’m not sure what we really should have taken to drink and eat but those sounded good for a couple of hours hiking. We did have a back pack with some half-assed supplies for survival if things got worse. I am trying to slowly build up my prepping life style while teaching my family to use these things. Continue reading

First Father and Son Project – Bird House

So I got this summer idea off the net somewhere and figured it would be a great project to get my son started on building things with his hands. With no plans or idea of what to do we went to Menard. Not the brightest ideas but it was a way to get the proverbial ball rolling.

I used the guise that it was for her father who was visiting for the weekend. That meant the project was getting the green light. Continue reading

Buying my son his first Tool/Knife

English: A multi-purpose pocket knife with all...

English: A multi-purpose pocket knife with all the blades visible (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I want my son to know that we acknowledge that he is growing up and to celebrate it we decided to get him a pocket knife. Which turned into a multi-tool because the pocket knives all looked really sharp and were about 5 inches long at Wal-Mart.  So just like the Berlin Wall a big NO from my girlfriend, till we saw a Winchester Multi-Tool.

I don’t know much about brands except Gerber, Bear Grylls and Black and Decker, but not much about toughness of tools. The only thing I really know about tools is that you get what you pay for, buy a quality tool and you only have to buy it once.  But in this case it’s not the brand of tool but more the act of relieving  the tool. Maybe even in his head its more of an understanding that he is becoming a man. Continue reading

Am I raising my sons right?

I really don’t think it has to be mentioned that I am proud of my sons, to you the reader.  Hoping that you have already read my other post you can assume that I am like most parents and love my children and want nothing but the best for them. 

The challenge I see lay before me is figuring out how to not only raise them but to give them every opportunity to excel at everything in life to become great people. But like more journeys you never know how the end result will be until the end. So I question what areas should I be concentrating on.

It is hard to figure out what level of reading or math my son should be for a first grader in the world ranking.

Let me explain something at this moment. I strongly feel that our current education system is failing us and our children. We are falling behind in the world rankings of education and to  compensate that, we are lowering our students requirements to get the grade.

Just to see where he stands and to see what we need to work on. We did get him started on reading and math during the summer before kindergarten. And now he is one of the top kids in his class on both. I have read an article where 2 parents raised their 3 kids to be awesome at chess and when they grew up 2 of them were chess masters.

Now this isn’t what I am planning to do with my kids, pushing a “career” idea on them. So none of this “you’re going to be a doctor, or a surgeon” crap. I believe we are going to push the idea of being great at things because of the effort you put into it.

If anyone has an idea or a suggestion of what would be a great plan or a suggestion to follow it would be much appreciated.