Is My Son a Bully or Is He Just Flirting?

Weird dad thought. My 7-year-old son wanted to tell me something that was told to him in school. “Boys go to college to get more knowledge, girls go to Jupiter to get more stupider.” At first we told him that he shouldn’t say that because he can hurt people’s feelings. And we don’t like to hurt people’s feelings. We even asked him what if someone said that to your mom, wouldn’t that hurt her feelings?  And that’s where we left it because I thought it was over, but now I kind of feel different towards it.

What if its his way of flirting with girls on the playground. Kids would chase girls and play (pull) with their hair and call them names so that they would chase them back. Since at the moment he doesn’t know how to talk to them or how to act with them. I see why he would flirt/bully them just so he could get a reaction from them, in his world its only boys not girls.

In a previous job I worked as an assistant to a director of an Institute that was spreading the word of STEM (Science Technology Engineering and Mathematics) education and a big hurdle I kept coming across was women in the STEM field. These are fields where men grossly outnumber women and harassment/bullying is rampant. I saw that girls and boys are mentally grown different and as they age they are told that they are either good at math or it’s just not their strong area. So to try to curb this behavior in our sons we have bought them a doll for every birthday or Christmas. This Christmas they age getting the Lammily doll [The first fashion doll made according to typical human body proportions. Based on measurements of an average 19-year-old woman’s body.] We also aim to try to stop the garbage that is boy means blue and girl means pink, along with boy toys and girl toys. He recently told his cousin (female) that she couldn’t play Legos with him because “she was a girl and didn’t know how to build things with them” while at the same time putting the Legos together with his aunts girlfriend.

But after hearing this from him I think I should step up my father duties and push him to start inviting girls over or to at least start making female friends more. I know he knows some girls from class and from the Boys and Girls club but he never hangs out with them. I was told, that at his age its more of boys playing with boys and not really playing with girls. I wonder if there is any truth to this.

What are your thoughts? Do most 7-year-olds pick their friends based off of gender segregation?

Just like the DMZ I drew a line this week

I’m sure not as drastic as it seems but I did stick by my word when I told my mother-in-law no this weekend. This weekend was one that a lot of parents will know of and maybe even fear. Standing up to the In-Laws and not bending to them. Is never really mentioned in parent help books but definitely needs to be in the very first chapters.


What Happened

The weekend started off as a gathering for her father’s birthday so there were a lot of family members. Which already is a stressful event in it self. So I played nice all day long thinking everything was fine and dandy until later when I found out two days later what I was doing was wrong. Like always I kept myself busy by doing the normal things to pass time there which is playing with the kids and helping anyone who needs it.

If you read my earlier post Stop giving my kids Candy! he was given 3 sodas by his grandparents, the last time he had one was when they were visiting us about a month and a half ago.

The first day is always the easiest to survive. The day started off regular with no bumps. But just like every parent has seen before this undisciplined mental patient replaced my son when he Continue reading