He wrote he wants to kill my son.

I got a phone call from my girlfriend sounding pissed. The cops had called her first. After reassuring her that no one was hurt. He told her that our son was in an altercation with another student.

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A=my son, J=the other kid, Z=third kid (All kids are in 3rd grade)

From the cops point of view. ~11:15 am

A gave the substitute teacher a letter that said “I want to kill myself” and on the other side it said “I’m going to kill you.” A said J gave him the letter. He took the kids out of the room and separated them so everyone is safe. But he just wanted to let us know what was going on.

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My Fatboy or soon to be bullied son

We use very hurtful nicknames for our kids. I call my 7 year old “Fatboy” and my 2 year old “Chubbs”. I don’t say it to be mean but that’s just the nick name that stuck with them. And for a while there my 7 year old really liked Fatboy Tobacco till he found out what Tobacco was (we saw it on a sign one day while we were in a different city.) So he rather just have it as Fatboy since he really likes it. DSCN5909
Now once again I have to mention that I love my sons more than life, again before someone gets mad at me. My girlfriend is still working on her Masters in counseling or something like that, Continue reading

Stop my Whiny son.

My son just had 2 of his cub scout friends come over for the day and one of them was here for the last 2 days. And both days started the same, 45 minutes of fart/burp jokes then more weird behavior about boobs. They would hold up balls or anything circular and would say hey look “boobs”. This was really funny since I have never seen him act this way with other people. It was funny though to see what kids his age are thinking about. Not everything I found out was funny about his behavior. Continue reading

I Always Abandon My Kids

DSCN3315I love my sons and I make it a point to tell them all the time. That doesn’t mean I need to watch them like a hawk or even worse, as a helicopter parent. Much like Lizzie Heiselt who just wrote a nice piece about leaving her 7-year-old at home by himself, I do the same. I have steadily done that ever since he was in Kindergarten.

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I’m Clueless on How To be a Dad

From what I can tell from the people I follow on here or articles I read on being a dad. Most of the time we all are just trying not to screw it up. DSCN6493

The most recent information we got was from my girlfriend’s father about my son’s behavioral problems in school. Just like a wise old man he said Continue reading

10 Reasons Why You SHOULD Teach Your Son To Pee Standing Up

I ran across this steaming pile of nugget called 10 Reasons Why You Should Teach Your Sons To Pee Sitting Down written by dadcamp. Blogging to me is an act of self relief, so any opinion shared on a blog shouldn’t be judged to harsh. I really don’t care if you say the world is orange, just don’t try to push that color on me. I respect everyone’s ideas equally but somethings just set me off and I have to vent about them.

I don’t really know why this post got to me so much but I read it a week ago and still haven’t closed the tab. Maybe cause I didn’t want to come out by telling this guy that he’s wrong on everything that came out of his mouth or maybe because I wanted some time to actually think of what to say without being angry

Like most men out there it really isn’t an issue that we fight for or that we let just slip by that is until someone tells us that we might be doing it wrong (for some reason vegans come to mind).  Now how dadcamp raises his sons is up to him and his partner. But the problem I have with it is how he tries to reason it for everyone else. I wasn’t part of the early beginnings of my first son’s life, but when I got here I could immediately see that a single woman was raising him (as if I didn’t know already).

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Am I raising my sons right?

I really don’t think it has to be mentioned that I am proud of my sons, to you the reader.  Hoping that you have already read my other post you can assume that I am like most parents and love my children and want nothing but the best for them. 

The challenge I see lay before me is figuring out how to not only raise them but to give them every opportunity to excel at everything in life to become great people. But like more journeys you never know how the end result will be until the end. So I question what areas should I be concentrating on.

It is hard to figure out what level of reading or math my son should be for a first grader in the world ranking.

Let me explain something at this moment. I strongly feel that our current education system is failing us and our children. We are falling behind in the world rankings of education and to  compensate that, we are lowering our students requirements to get the grade.

Just to see where he stands and to see what we need to work on. We did get him started on reading and math during the summer before kindergarten. And now he is one of the top kids in his class on both. I have read an article where 2 parents raised their 3 kids to be awesome at chess and when they grew up 2 of them were chess masters.

Now this isn’t what I am planning to do with my kids, pushing a “career” idea on them. So none of this “you’re going to be a doctor, or a surgeon” crap. I believe we are going to push the idea of being great at things because of the effort you put into it.

If anyone has an idea or a suggestion of what would be a great plan or a suggestion to follow it would be much appreciated.

Stop giving my kids Candy!

The other day I read Why Is Everyone Always Giving My Kids Junk Food? by  and it really made me think about other people giving them candy all the time. The most offender is of course his grandparents, who always gives him candy and even sneaks him candy.

We have tried telling his grandmother not to give him candy but still keeps to her words of “Grandparents are suppose to spoil their grand kids.” I agree that they should but to an extent on certain things; taking them on fun things to do, a toy (which means 1 toy per visit), and spending quality time with them. Continue reading

My SuperDad powers

DSCN2887I have noticed in my 17 months of fatherhood that I have these super powers. I am destroyer of monsters and creator of some. I can calm any child with a snug embrace or put to sleep anyone in the home. I am the warm face they see first in the morning, and deliver of punishment. I am dad.

With this new abilities thrust upon me I have to be careful on how they affect my kids. I am a great father to my 5 month old. He loves seeing me every minute of the day. When he’s grumpy/hungry/sad or anything, and he sees me he has the biggest smile on his face. So there is nothing wrong I can do by him. That little guy loves me for anything I do.

I’m a giant to my oldest son not just in size but in knowledge. The never ending questions have evolved into questioning of why and bordering scientific research. Sometimes its hard to punish him for being curious, even though some things get broken along the way I’m his sparing partner, his coach, the guy that knows about all the x-men and every cartoon in the world.